Luke 14:25-26

Now great crowds accompanied him, and he turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple…
Luke 14:33
So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.

Jesus was not interested in telling people what they wanted to hear which reads as shocking and I imagine was so to those who heard him speak. He was interested in speaking truth.  Here we have a most difficult truth: All must be renounced if we are to become Jesus’ disciple, family, friends, money, all. This does not mean that we lose all when we become Jesus’ disciple, indeed as we discover we don’t lose anything of true value, just what we think is valuable.  Jesus is obviously not telling us to actually hate our families because that would contradict what he has already said.  He is shocking us into understanding that if anything stands in the way of following him, then either it must go or we cannot be his disciples.  It is possible to make an idol of family and this we must not do.
All things must be in subordination to Jesus if we are to be his disciples.